So recently I found myself scrolling through my phone book and realized that there are ton of people that I don’t speak to anymore. I know that this is a time of transition and change in my life. God has me on a path and everyone can’t go with me. At times I feel lonely, but I know I am never alone because the Lord is with me. This is time for me to pray, meditate and be open to whatever He sends my way.
One of the things I am still learning to do is to transition from being mom “the life guide” to mom “the adviser”. I am learning how to listen and not offer advice unless I am asked. Sometimes they just want to vent and it’s important to know the difference between the two. I will admit that sometimes it is challenging. Due to life experience you can see things in advance. Either you’ve experienced a similar situation or you know someone who has.
Too often our children “think” that we have never experienced anything in our lives. Some of the favorite lines I’ve heard from my young adults are:
- I’m not like you.
- You don’t understand.
- Things are different now than they were back in your time.
They think that we have always been the age we are now and that we have never been young and made mistakes. What they don’t get, is that there is nothing new under the sun. Oh they may put a different spin on it, but it is still the same old same ole.
As much as I may want to shield them or protect them from making mistakes, I also realize that I would be doing them a disservice because they need to learn how to work through their problems. No parent wants to be an enabler. So pray for me and I will do the same for you as continue on this journey.
I am not only grateful to God for another day of life, but for the wonderful things that He is doing in the lives of my children. One of the most important things that a parent can do for their child is to introduce them to a relationship with God and teach them His ways. It gives them a foundation from which to grow. So many of today’s young people don’t have any coping skills and are tossed about with the changes of life. One of the fundamental things that all people need to know in general, is that change is the only constant in life.
Last year the Lord confirmed to me His purpose for my life and with His help, I will accomplish it. My desire is for Him to help me become the person that He designed and created me to be. This means I have to trust Him and be open to the leading of the Holy Spirit. As long as I remember that God has my best interest at heart and trust Him, everything else will fall into place. We have to trust the one that is leading us and we build faith by learning who God is. We do this by renewing our mind through the word of God. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (Rom 10:17)
I can honestly say that this last time that I searched for a job I did something different. Anyone that knows me, knows that I love to do research. I have tons of job search information. I’ve done Strength Finders 2.0 so I know my strengths, I have experience and a certification but this time around I added one key ingredient. That key ingredient is God.
I got to the point where I didn’t just want a job. I wanted to be in the will of God. I want to fulfill His purpose for my life; once I figure out what it is, but I knew if I prayed for His will to be done, that I would be alright. I don’t want to wander around aimlessly just working or doing what I think I should be doing. So I prayed. My prayer was for God to place me in a position where the skills, talents and abilities that He blessed me with could be utilized for His glory.
I want to fulfill the purpose for which I was created. So, I am definitely on a journey. This is definitely a time of transition and I am excited to see where God leads me.
Our lives are the sum of the choices that we have made thus far. If you want to change your life, change your choices. The bible says “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” (Pro 3:6) I don’t know if I discounted this scripture or ignored it because I wanted to do things my own way but I know that I have suffered the consequences that come along with not seeking guidance and direction before making decisions. I have received my fare share of bumps and bruises along the way but I have learned many lessons too.
It is very hard to have any type of relationship when the partnership is unequal. This can apply to a marriage, friendship or business partnership. When individuals are opposites and have different views it can be chaotic. “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? (Amos 3:3) No, they can not. That is why it it imperative that you not be unequally yoked.
Today’s Take Away – Take the time to seek guidance and direction before making decisions out of emotion. Our emotions are temporary and change constantly. Search the scriptures, pray, fast or talk to a person that you trust. Sometimes others can see things more clearly because they aren’t directly involved in the situation.
The bible tells us that the ““The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked;
Who can know it?” Jer 17:9 and it is the truth. My heart has taken a beating along with my emotions. Emotional abuse scars just like any other type of abuse. The hard part is trying to decipher why you allow it to continue once you identify that you are the recipient of it.
You beat yourself up for allowing it to happen, but you wonder if you are strong enough to move on. I believe that with therapy and faith in God, that anyone can move forward. Hold on to the word – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Phil 4:13 NKJV) I know that after the rain, is the rainbow and that I will have to endure this storm to get the healing and breakthrough.
I had a realization this morning. I will soon be an empty-nester. I know people celebrate but there is actually a part of me that is scared and feeling a sense of loss. Of course I want my young adults to get out in the world,live, be successful and follow their dreams but they have been with me every since I can remember. What will I do with out them?
I had my first child at 17 and I just realized that I don’t know what it is to be by myself. I’ve never had an opportunity to do so. I didn’t go away to college so I had no time to get to know who I was and what I wanted out of life. I have always been a caretaker and a mom and I believe my identity has been wrapped up in that as far as I can remember. WOW what a revelation.
I will miss going into their rooms for chats and hugs. I’m going to make sure every moment with them going forward is intentional. I am going commit to spending as much quality time with them as I can so I can lock these memories in and share with them before they go out into the world. I will continue to cover them in prayer and I will always be a phone call or Facetime away if they need me.